Stonecroft has given me the joy and mission of reaching women where they are, as they are for 40-plus years. I’ve lived in different states and each time had such a positive experience, probably because I had friends in each state. I recently moved again. This time no one knew me. I wandered into a new Outreach Group as a first-time guest. I was looking forward to this experience, certain that I would be greeted and hosted the Stonecroft way. What is the Stonecroft way? It’s noticing those who are not our friends and welcoming them like long lost relatives. It’s making room for them. It’s loving them for Jesus’ sake!
Sadly, this experience was different. No one greeted me at the door or escorted me to a table. This was a large Group and as I wandered from one table to another, I noticed each table had a “Reserved” sign on it. I finally found a table far at the back that had no sign on it. I asked the table host if I could sit down. She looked unsure and then said, “Well, a couple of my friends aren’t able to come so I guess that would be OK.” I fought back tears as I thought of those who come to meetings without being invited by a friend, those who are alone and searching for something meaningful, and those who are lost and want to be found. I hurt for them.
I understand that we want to be with friends. We look forward to the monthly meetings where we can connect with those we hold dear. What Jesus wants, however, is more important. We want to reach those who are allergic to spiritual truths: but can we connect with them if they appear invisible to us? I realize it is radical for some Groups to get rid of their “Reserved” signs and offer open seating, but that would be ideal.
Here are some tips to create a welcoming atmosphere for newcomers:
- Leave a few tables at the front for those who come for the first time
- Set aside two spaces at each table for those who are alone
- Station a couple of women at the door to look for those who are by themselves
- Place at each table a hostess trained to reach out to women around the table, facilitate conversation, and make each person feel comfortable.
Let’s make God look good!